Monday, February 19, 2007

The Valentine's day

This year, as usual, the Valentine’s Day made a huge hue and cry, with a mega increase in the pomposity of celebrations, and subsequent increase in the number and strength of hollow protests by political parties and organizations which claim themselves as the moral police ‘meant’ for the prevention of social evils.
Hearing the term Valentine’s day, arouses in me no more than a contemptible laughter, pitying the necessity of a unique day to express one of the basic emotions of human beings called LOVE. Emotions are simply instantaneous and unpredictable phenomena. It is hard to compel oneself to evoke emotions. Emotional joy or ecstasy comes out of inner contentment, which may have various triggering factors in various individuals. I wonder how people can derive inner joy when they receive some ready made roses or greeting cards with the boring romantic clichés encrypted in a jargoned fashion. This time, as I understand, there have been a number of ‘innovative’ but fundamentally absurd and ridiculous ways celebrating V day. Thanks to the media and the corporate, who have with them the power to make anything sane or insane.

Why do we need a separate day to express our love to our loved ones? Do we need a Mother’s day, Father’s day or sister’s day? Does that mean that we don’t love them on other days? These are some of the obvious logical questions against the credibility of the V day. Love is in the work you do to earn a living, love is there when you give your seat in a crowded bus to an old man, love is there when you switch off the fans and lights of your workroom after your use, love is there when you put a blasting metal music in a low volume, so as not to disturb your neighbors! Love is something ubiquitous in everything you see, in everything you do, in everything you think. Love is about the sensitivity of our hearts, it is about how we respect and care to bother for our fellow beings, how we identify the emotions and ethos of others with ours. Just that love has different forms and manifestations depending on the individuals, situations they encounter and the relations they maintain.
Anyway I don’t enforce anyone to regard my concepts of love as universally true. The least I can or shall do is just keep myself away from celebrating the Vday, so as to happily uphold and feel satisfied about the principles I believe in.
Though I find the whole idea of V day obscurely ludicrous, I defend the right of an individual to celebrate it. I have to acknowledge the existence of such individuals who derive pleasure and satisfaction from celebrating the Vday. Hence I pity the politicians and the conservative jingoists who bark like dogs trying to invite the whole attention to their stubborn ideology which they foolishly advocate to be solely universal. It is a well known fact, but a rarely respected fact, that the constitution provides each and every citizen the right to celebrate any festival in whatever way he/she likes, provided it does not debilitate the right of his/her fellow citizen. Such a fundamental right existing, I wonder why those political scoundrels are not arrested by law, for harassing and hampering the constitutional rights of others. What eligibility do they have to proclaim themselves as the custodians of our culture and heritage? Why don’t they target the bollywood heroes and babes who have been playing the significant role, in redefining the whole concept of ‘Indian’ness and Indian culture and legitimizing extreme boundaries of love and sex?


Be it fortunate or unfortunate, I believe that, all these changes are simply the habitual results of a large scale influence of westernization and globalization phenomena. Whether we need such a superficial amalgamation of cultures and social customs is a question too profound to answer. Today when westernization is the only criterion that wholly defines development and prosperity in all fields of Indian life, the popularity of the V day sentiments among the middle class Indian youth doesn’t give any special surprise. But what I plead to ask is, don’t we have enough number of indigenous festivals that uphold the concepts of love and prosperity? Don’t we have myriads of prestigious classical and traditional art forms, dance and music, that calls for love and peace, perhaps in a more subtle and respectable manner?

Westerners don’t have any similar fests and when they celebrate the V day they may be probably, quite sincere and contented about it. They are in a different cultural domain of emotional expression and formality where such a unique day can’t be regarded as something preposterous. But when it is celebrated in India, it largely becomes a vainglorious symbol of artificiality and meaninglessness, lacking emotional sensitivity and faith. It becomes just another opportunity for the market forces to play upon and extract the maximum profit from their prey; the middle class youth who in their bloated euphoria don’t care to ponder over such issues with profound social and cultural implications.
So this cycle of celebrations and protests will continue in the years to come. It is an everlasting battle between the contrasting interpretations of Indian culture and modernism.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Pretty much what I think about V' day, except that I do not find it necessary to stick with the age-old/evolved 'Indian ' yard sticks regarding expressing emotions. People who clamour for this Indianness doesnot have any picture regarding what this entity of Indianness is. But the whole point is that it is not any intrinsic/artistic urge that defines much of the celebrations these days. They are much more the product of Adam Smith's invisible hand; whether for good or bad I somehow fail to appreciate these celebrations with which an individual/group is unable to associate at a ground level while is pressurised/influenced by market forces to be part of it.

The other aspect of 'conservative jingoists' goind up with arms against this is funny in a way. Also don't you remember that once (two years before, I guess) it was Islamic fundamentalists in Kashmir and UP who created a havoc for celebrating V'day and it has been Sangh parivar during the last two years. Both are just sides of the same coin.

Sankar said...

Ayyappan,
Thanks for the comment :)
By Indianness I just wanted to thrust on our most natural individuality and emotions, as human beings. I to the least attempt to compare everything else with the standards of Indianness, for I believe that all cultures and civilzations are standards by their own ways and individualities. So, if we had been born and brought up in Turkey, I would have talked about Turkishness and resisted the need for the Vday in Turkey!
So what happened to the Islamic fundamentalists this time?

Anonymous said...

You have a point there, 'love' should not necesserly be that loud!
In fact the concept of 'love' has its root in the western religion.Indian concept on man- women relationship never had gone beyond pati-patni ( owner-slave) or at the most friend.Now it has become a universal concept with a new dimension.There is always the possibility to reform and recreate the concept 'love'into yet to be opened planes so..let the new generation experiment it.

Saaveri... said...

well written blog Sankar, u have put it exactly how it shud be :)

Anonymous said...

well, how can u be so illgoical saying that jsut beacuse there a mother's or fther's day , you dont love them the other days..

Well, in temples, you celebrate special days for shiva or any God/Godess. Are yo tryin to state that we dont show 'Bhakthi ' on the other days. Divinity is another basic htign in humans as love.. and both cna treatd same too ..

Well, ur logic seems to be right only when it is used for UNETHICAL business , otherwise what can substitute the happines sof a day between two lovers when they share sme good moments on a good day .

Do you think that that day can be subsitutted by any other way . ??

shankar, it would e relaly good for the society around you if you stop being a cliched 'protogonist;.

Sankar said...

Dear Simple Human Being (Does a realistically and pragmatically simple person know that he is simple?)

Thank you very much for your comments on my article. I hope you will positively consider re-reading my article and my following reply to your nice comments. .

1. Your statement: “well, how can u be so illgoical saying that jsut beacuse there a mother's or father's day , you dont love them the other days..”

It seems to me that you have thrown a boomerang by asking the same question to me which I attempted to address in my article! Your statement concludes that I opine this that those who celebrate Mother’s day or father’s day don’t love their fathers and mothers. But let me sincerely note that I was not meaning what you wrote. (whether it be due to the lack of clarity in my writing or expression or be it due your own misinterpretation). What I was trying to express was that, I didn’t feel the need of a special or unique day to express my love or courtesy to my parents or my love. It sounds simply ILLOGICAL and ABSURD to me (if not to you). As far as the earth rotates around the sun, all days are the same for me, be them good or bad! And of course I do have several other special days, whose specialty or uniqueness is totally determined by my personal indexes and reasons. The crux of the matter I wanted to highlight was just the intellectual pauperism and the emotional insensitiveness that mostly underlie the bombastic triviality of associating human emotions with media-boosted vainglory.

2. Your statement: Well, in temples, you celebrate special days for shiva or any God/Godess. Are yo tryin to state that we dont show 'Bhakthi ' on the other days. Divinity is another basic htign in humans as love.. and both cna treatd same too ..

Hope my earlier reply explains this question too. You intend to say that I am advocating this that a man who celebrates, say, Shivarahtri, does not respect shiva on any other day ! Was this I was saying in my article? Please read it carefully (only if you are really interested). Because, some “reliable” people whom I know and regard well, had spared their valuable time to read and understand properly what I had been meaning and posted their weighed comments carefully, and to my knowledge they haven’t yet misinterpreted what I had been saying; nor did they post any unscrupulous and hasty comments, out of any special agenda in their mind!

3. Well, ur logic seems to be right only when it is used for UNETHICAL business , otherwise what can substitute the happines sof a day between two lovers when they share sme good moments on a good day . Do you think that that day can be subsitutted by any other way. ??

ic. I believe that this can substitute the happiness of Feb 14: Let the ‘two’ lovers share a ‘lot’ of good moments on Feb 15th.

4. shankar, it would e relaly good for the society around you if you stop being a cliched 'protogonist’:

Thanks for the nice title of “clichéd protagonist” you have conferred upon me. Let me humbly admit that what I have written are all personal opinions about Valentine’s Day. I didn’t/don’t know (and didn’t/don’t bother to know) whether my ideas were/are clichéd or not. Moreover it’s not my business to know it; primarily because, my profession is not that of a ‘modern’ journalist. (“cos, only a modern journalist is worried to ensure that his writings are not clichéd or plagiarized, there’s lot of stress on that, you see ! ). And I sincerely believe that my writings do no good to the society as far as I take pains to make myself an erudite scholar by understanding the historical and social evolution of such traditions like St Valentine’s Day and make really credible opinions that constructively contribute to something like a revolutionary change benefiting common people. To this same extent do I believe that my writings do no bad to the ‘society’ as far I continue writing without intentionally hurting the sentiments of others or use them for a destructive purpose. And I can’t fully agree to your ‘clichéd’ suggestion asking me to write for the social good. Because I feel that when a writer writes, or a singer sings, it is not always for the social good alone. There are several other personal reasons that urge an artist to create art, be it a prose or music, which you may be able to experience and appreciate once you yourself try spending some time to write or sing.!

Before I stop, a small question to you:
I wonder why you haven’t given your identity here. I am just curious to know about the person who has taken much pains to read my article. Though I believe that a comment without a name is akin to a child without a parent, I respect your reason for anonymity since it may be that
You are an unassumingly simple a person that you don’t wish to take for yourself, the ‘appreciation’ you get for your comments
OR
You do belong to any one among the following genera: social VIP, defense research scientist, criminal, and politician.
OR
You have a curved spine and prefer to be a guerilla war hero.

Anyway, Thanks again.

Regards
Sankar